Some of the worst feelings in the world are feeling unloved, misunderstood, disrespected or rejected by others when all you are really trying to do is just BE YOURSELF. - Frederick Zappone
I have had all those feelings and more.
The truth is I felt so negative at one time that I was convinced I was permanently flawed or defective in some way. Feeling insecure, anxious, worried and lacking confidence was no way for me to live life. And it didn't help putting myself down or criticizing myself in some way for BELIEVING that I was not good enough.
Most of my self-criticism was a result of believing the negative opinions others had of me when I was just BEING MYSELF. I was called crazy, odd, weird, different and strange. One time a boss called me an emotional cripple. Ouch, that hurt!
Because I BELIEVED** I was f*cked up I went to therapists psychologists and counselors trying to get myself unf*cked. I listened to their advice and took their pills. The effects of their advice and pills worked but never lasted..
**Believed is an important word because whatever you believe about yourself always comes true.
I would feel good for awhile and then my negative feelings would return to me. Feelings of chronic anxiety ran rampant through my body. Thoughts of disliking myself, not approving of myself and sometimes downright hating myself grew worse.
I started reading every self-help book I could get my hands on.. They had the same effect on me as the 'therapist's advice and pills' had on me. They helped me for awhile but then the good feelings would wear off and the bad feelings would return.
Slowly but surely I became addicted, not to pills, but to self-help books, videos, programs and workshops. These things became narcotics for my mind.
I would read a self-help book, take a self improvement workshop and feel HIGH for awhile until the HIGH wore off. When the high wore off, I would have to buy another self-help book or attend another workshop to feel good again.. I was getting poorer while other people were getting richer at my expense. The books and workshops I was addicted to promised so much but delivered so little.
The negative feelings, over the years, got worse instead of better.
It seemed the harder I worked at getting better the worse I got...
It got so bad that I would end up having suicidal thoughts. At times I would be tempted to do physical harm to myself but I never did.
At some point I was convinced that God was going to save every person on this planet including Hitler and people like him but not me.
At my lowest point I heard a voice** from out of nowhere SHOUT at me.
STOP HATING YOURSELF AND START LOVING YOURSELF NOW
I froze in my tracks because no one ever told me to love myself before and I never heard a voice** that loud that seemed to come out of thin air. I thought self-love was only something selfish, conceited people did. Boy was I wrong.
**Till this day I have no earthly idea who screamed those words at me, maybe an angel.
When I started on my self-love journey I found out there wasn't a lot of material available that could precisely tell me how to love myself more. The material I read, about self-love, was either too complicated to understand or written by people who believed self-love was a selfish act rather than an POWERFUL act of self-care.
As I progressed through the stages of loving myself more I kept detailed notes and wrote down everything I was learning about loving myself sufficiently.
I wrote down every insight that made it possible for me to love myself more. As a result of applying the information I learned about loving myself sufficiently, my life improved mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially.
The real miracle for me is that self-love caused the things going wrong in my life to turn out right, often times, in ways that defied all logical explanations.
After sharing my thoughts and insights about self-love with some of my close friends, I was highly encouraged, literally pushed, to make my thoughts and insights on self-love available to anyone who was interested in them.
As a result of the encouragement I received, everything I learned about self-love I put into a program I call the 21 Day Self-Love Program. I call it that because the content of my program is delivered to people via e-mail over a period of 21 days.
I knew what I had learned about self-love was good stuff but I didn't realize how good until people I shared my program with starting writing me. Here are comments from people who have benefited from my self-love insights and wisdom.
• Frederick this new paradigm of self-love that you are teaching is truly revolutionary. I'm glad I've signed up for your self-love program.. It is exactly what I have been looking for to wake me up to the habits that no longer serve me so that I can install self-loving thoughts and behaviors. - McKinley Williams, Los Angeles
• Your Self-Love program has opened me up and improved EVERY area of my life. My self-awareness, confidence, energy and motivation has grown by leaps and bounds. And my sense of well being has increased too. I highly recommend your program. I only wish I had done this sooner. Tina Moore, UT
• As a result of doing the things you suggested in your self-love program, I noticed that the other things I wanted to achieve, besides loving myself more, started to manifest by themselves, as if by magic. Who would of thought that self love could make miracles happen but it does. Thank you, Thank you. - Maria B. Australia
• After a week of reading your self-love program materials I'm already noticing changes. I had frequent heart palpitations due to anxiety, which have disappeared. My cravings for sweets, which made it nearly impossible to lose weight and are now non-existent. Thank you for making your program available to us.- Michael D., VA
• Thank you for all your wisdom.. I look forward to each little nugget of gold I get from you. .---brilliant messages full of fantastic thoughts. - Abby C. NYC
Speaking from my own personal experience, because of what I know about self-love through the 'trial and error' method of learning, I rarely experience a negative feeling any more and when I do I know how to dissolve it instantly.. Everything I know that works in regards to self-love I have included in my self-love program.
One of the greatest by-products of self-love is that more you love yourself, the less fears you have about the people and the world around you.
While many people are 'freaking' out' about the unrest and violence being reported in the news along with their fears related to the political scene, people who love themselves sufficiently are feeling protected and loved all the time..
Self-love people sense that a power greater than themselves is very much present in their lives. They also report receiving messages of guidance and advice that allow them to create a heaven on earth for themselves while people full of fear, anger and hate are creating a living hell for themselves..
The mental and emotional freedom I've felt since making self-love a priority, in my life, has been nothing short of amazing. This freedom has resulted in me having more FUN in my life than I ever thought possible.
I haven't felt this way since I was fun-loving kid growing up. The sign you see below is one I posted in my room as a constant reminder of a basic truth for me.
I love feeling good about myself. And I love waking up every morning knowing that instead of a day of 'fear and dread' like I would have in the past I am going to have another day of happiness and fun coming my way. That is what the information in my self-love progam did for me, it will do the same thing for you.
21 Day Self-Love Program
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Yes that's me, Frederick Zappone, the author of the self-love program. That picture of me was taken August of 2015. While many people guess that I am in my 50's, on May 17, 2017, I will turn 75. Self-love is not only good for the soul, it is immensely good for the body and mind too.